60 Ways to score points with a woman
60 Ways to score points with a woman
– By John Gray
(Author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)
(It could be your Wife/Girl Friend/Mom)
1. Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug
2. Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (Like "How did your meeting go?")
3. Practice listening and asking questions
4. Resist the temptation to solve her problems - empathize instead
5. Give her 20 minutes of unsolicited, quality attention
6. Sometimes bring her, flowers
7. Ask what she wants to do on the weekends
8. Sometimes offer to make dinner
9. Compliment her on how she looks (Don't be sarcastic or nasty)
10. Validate her feelings when she is upset
11. offer to help her when she is tired
12. Schedule extra time when travelling so that she does not have to rush
13. When you are going to be late, call her and let her know
14. When she asks for support say yes or no without making her feel wrong for asking
15. Whenever her feelings have been hurt, give her some empathy and tell her "I'm sorry you feel hurt"
16. Whenever you need to pull away, let her know that you need some time to think about things
17. When you've cooled off, talk about what was bothering you in respectful, non-blaming way.
18. When she talks to you, put down the magazine or newspaper or turn off the TV and give her your full attention
19. Notice when she is upset or tired or unwell, ask what she has to do and offer help by doing few things for her.
20. If you are going out, ask her if she wants something to be picked up at the store - and Remember to get it from the store
21. Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave.
22. Sometimes give her a hug.
23. Call her from work to ask how she is.
24. Keep your things neat.
25. Fold your bedsheet or offer help when she is folding yours.
26. Don't leave dirty socks for her to pick up - least you can do, if not wash, is to put them to wash.
27. When you are out of town, call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know that you arrived safely.
28. Take her side first, when she is upset. If necessary make her see the other side - later.
29. Be patient when she is sharing. Don't look at your watch.
30. Don't flick the remote control to different channels, when she is watching TV with you. Ask her if she is watching something specific before changing the channel
31. Its ok to sometimes display affection in public. Holding hands or putting your hand over her shoulder isn't indecent in any part of the world.
32. When holding hands don't let your hand go limp.
33. Suggest restaurants for going out; don't put the burden of figuring out where to go - always on her.
34. Create occassions to dress up. Taking her to public functions of your colleagues is Ok.
35. Be understanding when she is late
36. Pay attention to her than to others(only) in public. She is not a stranger.
37. Buy little presents - a small chocolate or a toffee may be. Its just a gesture.
38. Take pictures of her on special occasions
39. Offer to go on Long drives - sometimes.
40. Drive slowly and safely.
41. Notice how she is feeling and comment on it - "You look happy today" or "You look tired" - and then ask her "How was your day?"
42. Read out loud - sections of the newspaper that would interest her.
43. Open the door for her. Don't always Bang it when going out or coming in.
44. Offer to carry groceries or heavy items for her.
45. Don't chat with somebody else on the Mobile, when you have gone shopping with her. Its her turn to get some of your attention. Not share with it with a virtual person sitting elsewhere.
46. Sometimes compliment her cooking.
47. When listening to her talk, use eye contact.
48. Touch her with your hand sometimes, when you talk to her.
49. If she has been sick in some way, ask how she is doing or feeling.
50. Say Bye when you leave.
51. Use good humour and laugh with her.
52. Notice when she gets her hair done, and give a reasuring compliment.
53. Create special time to be alone together.
54. Don't answer the phone on special occasions or when she is sharing vulnerable feelings.
55. Let her know that your missed her when you went away.
56. Bring home her favourite dish or pastry or dessert sometimes.
57. Help in household chores like changing the bulb, drying out clothes
58. Call her up to tell her the Lunch was good (If she has prepared it for you)
59. Sometimes, say a Thank you, when she does things for you.
60. Be caring, Negotiate in a manner that shows her you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want.
– By John Gray
(Author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)
(It could be your Wife/Girl Friend/Mom)
1. Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug
2. Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (Like "How did your meeting go?")
3. Practice listening and asking questions
4. Resist the temptation to solve her problems - empathize instead
5. Give her 20 minutes of unsolicited, quality attention
6. Sometimes bring her, flowers
7. Ask what she wants to do on the weekends
8. Sometimes offer to make dinner
9. Compliment her on how she looks (Don't be sarcastic or nasty)
10. Validate her feelings when she is upset
11. offer to help her when she is tired
12. Schedule extra time when travelling so that she does not have to rush
13. When you are going to be late, call her and let her know
14. When she asks for support say yes or no without making her feel wrong for asking
15. Whenever her feelings have been hurt, give her some empathy and tell her "I'm sorry you feel hurt"
16. Whenever you need to pull away, let her know that you need some time to think about things
17. When you've cooled off, talk about what was bothering you in respectful, non-blaming way.
18. When she talks to you, put down the magazine or newspaper or turn off the TV and give her your full attention
19. Notice when she is upset or tired or unwell, ask what she has to do and offer help by doing few things for her.
20. If you are going out, ask her if she wants something to be picked up at the store - and Remember to get it from the store
21. Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave.
22. Sometimes give her a hug.
23. Call her from work to ask how she is.
24. Keep your things neat.
25. Fold your bedsheet or offer help when she is folding yours.
26. Don't leave dirty socks for her to pick up - least you can do, if not wash, is to put them to wash.
27. When you are out of town, call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know that you arrived safely.
28. Take her side first, when she is upset. If necessary make her see the other side - later.
29. Be patient when she is sharing. Don't look at your watch.
30. Don't flick the remote control to different channels, when she is watching TV with you. Ask her if she is watching something specific before changing the channel
31. Its ok to sometimes display affection in public. Holding hands or putting your hand over her shoulder isn't indecent in any part of the world.
32. When holding hands don't let your hand go limp.
33. Suggest restaurants for going out; don't put the burden of figuring out where to go - always on her.
34. Create occassions to dress up. Taking her to public functions of your colleagues is Ok.
35. Be understanding when she is late
36. Pay attention to her than to others(only) in public. She is not a stranger.
37. Buy little presents - a small chocolate or a toffee may be. Its just a gesture.
38. Take pictures of her on special occasions
39. Offer to go on Long drives - sometimes.
40. Drive slowly and safely.
41. Notice how she is feeling and comment on it - "You look happy today" or "You look tired" - and then ask her "How was your day?"
42. Read out loud - sections of the newspaper that would interest her.
43. Open the door for her. Don't always Bang it when going out or coming in.
44. Offer to carry groceries or heavy items for her.
45. Don't chat with somebody else on the Mobile, when you have gone shopping with her. Its her turn to get some of your attention. Not share with it with a virtual person sitting elsewhere.
46. Sometimes compliment her cooking.
47. When listening to her talk, use eye contact.
48. Touch her with your hand sometimes, when you talk to her.
49. If she has been sick in some way, ask how she is doing or feeling.
50. Say Bye when you leave.
51. Use good humour and laugh with her.
52. Notice when she gets her hair done, and give a reasuring compliment.
53. Create special time to be alone together.
54. Don't answer the phone on special occasions or when she is sharing vulnerable feelings.
55. Let her know that your missed her when you went away.
56. Bring home her favourite dish or pastry or dessert sometimes.
57. Help in household chores like changing the bulb, drying out clothes
58. Call her up to tell her the Lunch was good (If she has prepared it for you)
59. Sometimes, say a Thank you, when she does things for you.
60. Be caring, Negotiate in a manner that shows her you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want.
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