One Big Gamble

Taking Risk is part of everybody's life.

Everybody has one way or the other to mitigate the Risk.

But the Biggest Risk - The Biggest Gamble that one goes through in life is "Marriage".

A combination of emotions, character, habits. These exist in any relationship. But it is only in a Marital relationship that these often come upstream.

Accepting people as they are, accepting words, actions, thoughts, opinion is not often easy.

Well, that isn't the only factor that makes Marriage a living nightmare...there are more...to list a few..

* Communication is the key to a successful marriage. But how to communicate? There is no thumb rule for 'Effective communication' especially when it comes to spouse.

* The flexibility that is there with outsiders is a 'restricted area' for the spouse alone. Why me...and Why not She?

* Requests turn into Tantrum only when they are unheeded.

* Blame game -> "I don't like this in you...I don't like that in you..."

* Not a single positive part noticed -> "You do have positive things in you? I never noticed. I remember only things I hate about you. So I don't care about things I love about you"

* Never share a single word of appreciation -> "Oh...Praise em...Raise em....Beware".

* Tongue lashing -> "You are the Only one who gets angry and shouts. (Tone higher than the other)."

* Bad memories - unfulfilled dreams - unshared aspirations.

* Bringing back History as reference - You did this that day.

* Every attempt to seek attention is treated as attempt to exploit.

* Lack of sensitivity - seeing things from the other's point of view.

* NO TIME!!!

* Sharing of Love - Public or private has to be unconditional and fearless.

* Care - "Oh I care. It's not visible that's all."

* Titbits of giving - "Oh...Has love got to be material only?? Why waste Money??"

* Sharing of Information - "Talk about money honey...rest all is a big waste of time"

No matter how many compromises and sacrifices are made....marriage can be sweet only when both hearts are willing to be flexible.

It takes 2 to Tango...

Do we really have to manipulate people to get things done?

The concept of "Me" has to change to "We". Until then, its a daily battle.

Unconditional Love is often put to a fire test. Prayers, councelling, Attitude - everything helps.

Dreams Unlimited...

Comments

Angel's Flight said…
I agree its a gamble...but it all comes down to it being a game...and u have to know how to play the game :)...dont tell someone i told u this :)
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